The Secret to Defusing a Child’s Anger, Upset or Tantrum.

When our children get annoyed or tearful, as parents we often end up contradicting them. We try to explain why they shouldn’t feel that way. We tell them off for being unreasonable, we try to tell them what they should do to sort it out. Next time there’s an angry outburst or upset, try instead [...]


5 steps to stop shouting at your children

Many parents shout at their children. It seems to be part of normal life at home. And yet, it feels wrong. It’s one of the habits that, as parents, we most want to change. Also it doesn’t seem to have any long term effect – we still end up shouting regularly! And the last thing [...]


11 Ways to Help your Child Cope with Frustration

Children often struggle with frustrations. Both with things they want to do on their own, meeting expectations and with being denied things they want. Life can be full of frustrations, but it helps if children can experience difficulties, and learn how to cope when they want something and can’t have it. Parents can help a [...]


My teenager is rude and disrespectful. What can I do?

Hi ElizabethMy son Jack, he's defiant, rude, argumentative, naughty at school and basically no matter what the boundaries, he pushes them. I've tried everything I can think of, I've even had behavioural services round before he went to secondary school, but to be honest we are no further forward. He doesn't work very hard at school, does [...]


A step by step approach to resolving conflict for family harmony

Resolving conflict is an essential life skill that parents and children can learn, and yet is rarely taught.  It is the art of working out exactly what you want at the end of an argument and how you are most likely to achieve it. It involves carefully considering the needs of the other person and [...]


How to stop feeling overwhelmed as a parent

Being a parent can be incredibly frustrating at times. When we shout, lose our temper, or can’t seem to control what our children do each of us has a voice inside that is critical of what we do. Our inner critic can sometimes make us feel useless and demoralised and feel like a bad parent. [...]


14 tips for Helping Children with Emotional Intelligence

Our emotional intelligence is the ability to understand our own feelings and the feelings of others so we can get along with other people. Experts have found that our emotional intelligence is the biggest predictor of life happiness. If we want to help our children develop emotional intelligence we need to help them name their [...]


Positive discipline: How to use Time Out effectively

As a Mother, I occasionally used Time Out with my children to give them time to calm down. When my children were younger they used to spend Time Out in the downstairs cloakroom, and I was surprised one day to find a stash of comics under the rug!  At least one of my children was [...]


When to ignore bad behaviour (and when not to)

Jack, aged 3, was bored. His Mum was in a coffee shop, and Jack decided to push his scooter repeatedly into her foot. His Mum asked him to stop and then ignored him. A gentleman in the queue to buy coffee said aloud ‘He needs a good smack’ whereupon a lady who was also queuing [...]

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