The Secret to Defusing a Child’s Anger, Upset or Tantrum.

When our children get annoyed or tearful, as parents we often end up contradicting them. We try to explain why they shouldn’t feel that way. We tell them off for being unreasonable, we try to tell them what they should do to sort it out. Next time there’s an angry outburst or upset, try instead [...]


11 Ways to Help your Child Cope with Frustration

Children often struggle with frustrations. Both with things they want to do on their own, meeting expectations and with being denied things they want. Life can be full of frustrations, but it helps if children can experience difficulties, and learn how to cope when they want something and can’t have it. Parents can help a [...]


My teenager is rude and disrespectful. What can I do?

Hi ElizabethMy son Jack, he's defiant, rude, argumentative, naughty at school and basically no matter what the boundaries, he pushes them. I've tried everything I can think of, I've even had behavioural services round before he went to secondary school, but to be honest we are no further forward. He doesn't work very hard at school, does [...]


As a Child of Divorced Parents – what I want…

Emotionally To be loved and supported by both parents. To know that even though my parents no longer want to live in the same house, they still love me and that I will get to spend time with each of them. And that my parents are doing everything possible to sort this out (amicably) [...]


A step by step approach to resolving conflict for family harmony

Resolving conflict is an essential life skill that parents and children can learn, and yet is rarely taught.  It is the art of working out exactly what you want at the end of an argument and how you are most likely to achieve it. It involves carefully considering the needs of the other person and [...]


10 Secrets of Helping your Child Make and Keep Friends

Many parents would like to help their child make and keep friends and yet are at a loss at what to do to help. Here are a few tips on what you can do that can help your child learn how to be a good friend and deal with friendship problems. Every child has difficulties [...]


Positive discipline: How to use Time Out effectively

As a Mother, I occasionally used Time Out with my children to give them time to calm down. When my children were younger they used to spend Time Out in the downstairs cloakroom, and I was surprised one day to find a stash of comics under the rug!  At least one of my children was [...]


Beating Anger. Tips for Parents

The most common thing that parents would like to change about themselves is the way they shout at (or occasionally smack) their child. It is normal and natural to experience anger –it is there as a warning that something is wrong and needs to change. But in the short-term what can you do when your [...]


Managing Aggression, Biting and Sibling Fighting

It is often very difficult for parents when they see their child behaving aggressively. Sometimes it is even more difficult than your child being hit. We would often rather our child was the innocent victim than the bully! So what practical measures can you take when children behave aggressively? I have broken the following ideas [...]


Brothers and sisters – team mates or rivals?

One of the things that I love about going on holiday with my children is that they all enjoy playing with each other. Having four children means that there is always someone to play with, or swim with and no one feels left out. My children think of themselves as a team and will devise [...]