FAQ

What is a ‘parenting coach’?

A parenting coach is a parenting specialist who can give expert help and advice to help you with your child’s behaviour.  It could be anything from your child not sleeping, tantrums, having problems getting a child to do homework, stealing, a teenager going off the rails, or anything you find difficult to deal with.

It is not coaching in the traditional sense of the word, because I will give you specific advice on how to solve issues.

What does parent coaching involve?

Before the coaching starts, it’s important to find out about what issues you’re dealing with. We’ll start with a phone or Skype call first, with me, free of charge, to check if we’re a good fit.

Normally, after this call, I’ll let you know how many sessions will be needed to get the issues sorted.  If you’re happy to go ahead, you will then fill out a background form, with questions about lots of different aspects of your child’s or children’s lives.

I will make a list of all the problems and issues, work out what parenting skills or strategies you need to get it sorted, and then teach you those strategies on your session(s).

Do you need to see my child?

No, I don’t need to see your child. I’ll show you how to change their behaviour. I just need the information from the background form, to work out what needs to change at home.

As you go through the sessions I’ll ask you questions to check how your child is behaving using the new strategies. I can then tweak the strategies so that they work well for your child.

The most important thing is that YOU know how to deal with your child’s behaviour, not just now, but in the months and years ahead.

What problems don’t you deal with?
  • Children with profound autism
  • Children unable to speak
  • Severe mental health issues
  • Children 17 or over
  • Teenage drug addiction
  • Parental drug or alcohol addiction
  • Anger Management Courses
  • Domestic Violence Courses
  • Parents with severe learning difficulties
  • Parents who don’t speak English
What problems do you deal with?
  • Sleep problems
  • Negativity
  • Anger
  • Tantrums
  • Friendship issues
  • Issues specific to raising twins or triplets
  • Special needs
  • Bullying
  • Sibling rivalry
  • Issues
  • Rudeness
  • Hitting or biting
  • Homework hassles
  • Ignoring
  • Not working at school
  • Worries or anxieties
  • Bedtime issues
  • Morning fusses
  • Mobile phone issues
  • Limiting screen time
  • Helping children cope with divorce
  • Parenting course for child contact
  • Most issues with child’s behaviour

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Will I always get you for my parenting sessions?

At the moment, I work with all 1:1 clients.

In the future, you may be given options to work with a coach trained by me

What availability do you have?

I only work with 8 families at a time.

Because of the planning and work involved to make sure you have the full level of service you deserve, initially, you may have to go on a waiting list.

Are there parents you don’t work with?

The free introductory phone or Skype call is to make sure there’s a good fit with me, and how I work. I will only take you on, if you are genuinely interested in improving things for your child/ children, and are open to trying new ideas.

If you need to do a court-ordered parenting course, but aren’t interested in genuinely becoming the best mum or dad you can be for your child, I will ask you to look elsewhere for a course.

Is it best to do the sessions on Skype or in person?

There’s nothing quite like sitting down with me, with a cup of tea or coffee, so you can discuss issues with your child, comfortably and openly.

Some parents travel for up to two hours, to do sessions face to face. Or come and stay in Horsham, at a local ‘Bed and Breakfast’ hotel, and do the sessions over two days.

However, I work with parents across the UK, in Europe, USA and Australia using Skype.

Half of my clients have never met me face-to-face. Sometimes clients who live near me, choose to do sessions by Skype, so they can do the sessions after their children have gone to bed. However, 8pm is usually the latest I will start a session, so you’re not too tired to concentrate.

What will I need if I’m doing the sessions on Skype?
  • A laptop or device which has Skype, which is free to download. During the sessions, I will share my screen with you, so you can see the sheets we’re covering, so your screen will need to be big enough to read the sheets.
  • A reasonable internet connection.
  • A printer (preferable but not essential) to print off the worksheets I’ll send you before each session. However, that’s not essential.

If you prefer, you don’t need to have your camera on.  I just need to be able to share my screen during the session.

If you don’t have any of the above, it will make doing the sessions trickier, however it is still possible to do sessions over the phone and e-mail the sheets just before the sessions, that we’ll work through.

When can you do the parenting sessions?

I try to be as flexible as I can because I know that parents are busy.

I prefer to do the sessions Monday to Friday between 9 am and 5pm.

However, I can also do sessions in the evenings, and at weekends.

I don’t do any sessions on a Saturday or Sunday evening, because that is my family time.

What ways can I pay?

I prefer payment by bank transfer.

Your invoice will include my bank sort code and account number.

However, you can also pay by PayPal or by cheque.

All payments need to be cleared in the account 48 hours before the session starts.

If you want to stage payments you can arrange regular direct debit payments and there is a 20% surcharge for this facility.

How many sessions does it take?

Sometimes just one session is needed.  Sometimes it takes three sessions.

The most you would need is six sessions. I will talk to you on the phone before we start, and let you know how many sessions I think you’ll need.

If you do six sessions, and you pay in full before the second session, you’ll get a seventh session, free of charge, as a bonus. That can be used to keep everything on track, and to deal with any new problems that crop up, after the course.

Can I carry on working with you afterwards?

Yes, some parents like to sign up for ‘Peace of Mind’ sessions.

Normally that is an hour’s session, once every two months, for 10 months. 5 sessions in total.

This allows you to have some accountability, keep your parenting on track and tackle any new issues that arise.

How long is each session?

Each session lasts 90 minutes. We cover a lot in that time so you’ll need to be ready to concentrate. Most parents say the time just flies by.

However, this needs to suit you! If you know you will struggle to concentrate for 90 minutes at a time, you can do the course in ten 60-minute sessions, at a small extra cost.

How long should there be between sessions?

It’s best to do the sessions every week or every two weeks.

That gives you a chance to practice the skills in between the sessions but not to lose momentum. So, six session should be completed within three months.

However, if you are doing a court-ordered parenting course, the course can be completed in two half-days.

Is this investment, good value for money?

You are investing in your child and in your family life.

I am a parenting specialist with many years’ experience.

It’s not just the sessions you’re paying for, it’s the expertise to solve the difficulties you’re having. Plus, unlimited texts and e-mails between the sessions, so you can get help and support when you need it.

if I can’t solve your issue, I don’t want to keep your money. So, the sessions come with a money-back guarantee So if your issue isn’t solved or significantly reduced I’ll give you money back.

Luckily, I have never had to do that. But if this doesn’t work for your child, then I’ll be happy to refund you.

Is it best to do the sessions on my own, or with my partner?

If possible, it’s best to do the sessions with your husband, wife or partner, so that you have a united front, and you both use the same skills and techniques, with your child.

However, many parents do the sessions on their own, for a variety of reasons.

Should I tell my child I’m doing parenting sessions?

Your child is going to feel much happier at home, after your parenting course.

However, if your child is over the age of 7, they may be a bit suspicious about what changes may happen after your parenting sessions. So, it may be best not to mention the parenting sessions until after you complete the course.

What if it doesn’t work for my child?

I’m so confident this will work, that if at the end of our work together, the issues you mentioned on your background form aren’t solved or significantly reduced, you can have your money back. There are very few professionals who would be willing to offer you that!

Each time you do a parenting session, you’ll have the chance to talk about exactly how your child is responding to the new skills and techniques. That way we can tweak things so they work for your child.

Do you have a special offer?

My work is highly specialised, and the price is fixed.

However, if you pay in full before the second session of the offer you a seventh session free of charge 4 to 6 weeks after we finish and check that everything is still working the sessions to tackle any new problems.

What will I need to do, after each session?

During each session, the you’ll learn some new skills. After each session, you’ll get to practice the skills. Sometimes it takes a little while to get used to using the new things we covered. It’s a bit like learning French. It takes a while till you’re fluent. It’s important to practice it for it to work.

What happens during a parenting session?

At the beginning of each session we’ll check up how things have been at home We’ll talk about any problems you been having and how your child has responded it to the new strategies.

During each session, we’ll aim to cover two new skills. After the session, you will go home with specific instructions with two or three things to try out before the next session.

Do I have to print out all the notes?

If you do the sessions face to face I will print out or all the sheets you’ll need.

However, if you do the sessions on Skype I will send you some sheets before the session to print off.

Those will be the sheets you complete during the session.

At the end of each Skype sessions I will send you a word document with all the sheets we have gone through during the session.

You can then choose to print them off where you can refer to them.

What qualifications do you have?

My most important qualification is I’m the mother of four children. When my last baby was born I had a baby, a two-year-old, a four-year-old and a six-year-old. So, I have a lot of experience of all the difficulties in raising children.

I have a Bachelor of Science degree in nursing and I have also worked for five years for Home-Start, a charity that supports families with children under 5. I have also worked for the YMCA, helping parents who have suffered from abuse or neglect and the pasta to break the cycle of abuse.

I have trained to run four different types of parenting courses:

– The Parent Practice
– Parent Gym
– The Solihull Approach
– Webster Stratton’s Incredible Years
– I am also accredited by ‘Can Parent.’ A bit like OFSTED for parenting courses.

I’ve been running my business, Parent 4 Success for over six years helping parents solve numerous issues.

It helps that I offer a money back guarantee, so you can be certain you’re in safe hands.

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